By NOEL D. FERRER
ACTORS Joross Gamboa and Adrian Louis Alandy may be playing many challenging and hit roles on television and on the big screen, but what has earned them the respect of their peers and the general public is their rootedness in family and good personal relationship.
Never have we heard anyone talk about them being unprofessional and not delivering in terms of work; conversely, they have been hailed as dependable and consistently bankable actors who end up as darlings on set.
Adrian Louis Alandy, who turned another year older this love month, is happily married for seven years now with Joselle Alandy, a sought-after social media influencer, with whom he has an almost 14-year age gap. Asked about their secrets to a lasting relationship, Adrian lists these down:
1. Our relationship with God is mighty strong. Since we got married, we make it a point to read daily Bible verses while having our morning coffee.
2. We are not afraid to make fun of each other, according to Joselle. Positive vibes lang kami always. I learned not to stress on things, it will just lead you to wrong decisions, and it’ll age you faster.
3. We listen to each other. We respect each other’s opinions.
4. We give each other space to grow and do things that make us happy as individuals. So that we get to share various learnings when we end our day.
5. We are not money-centered in our relationship. When we have extra money, we travel. We are happy exploring, and sharing whatever little blessings we have.
6. To avoid arguments and fights, I’ve learned the most important words to say, “Yes, Love” and then we look at each other, and understand our silences.
7. When we dine outside, my opinion matters, pero her choice is final (🤣🤣🤣)
8. We acknowledge the power of the kalabit and bawal ang kabit! 😂 We are not afraid to get wild – in love, with each other.
9. We surprise each other whenever possible with random small gifts like our favorite snacks or fast food take-outs.
10. We enjoy life together. We make lasting and loving memories even as we are in different lines of work.
Joross, on the other hand, has a solid and happy 10-year relationship with his wife Katz Gamboa, who looks after their two lovable sons Jace Kyler and John Kody. When Joross has breaks in between his showbiz commitments, they hie off to their beach house in Sariaya, Quezon. Their pointers to a happy marriage are:
1. Keep God in the center of your relationship. Always pray together.
2. Understanding that marriage is not a contract, it is a covenant with God; and marriage is two imperfect people combined by a Perfect God.
3. Love God before your spouse.
4. Love your spouse before your children.
5. Be selfless.
6. Know your roles as husband and wife. Be a team and work as one.
7. Communication is important so spend time as a family and spend time as partners too.
8. If you are starting to fight, take a break. Give space, pray, and don’t make sudden decisions if you are in HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired.
9. Don’t take everything too seriously; have a light, free-flowing atmosphere at home.
10. Do the 5 love languages to your partner and kids which are: words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, physical touch.
Do Joross and Adrian seem too serious for their showbiz personas? Not in the slightest!
Despite their playful on-screen roles, these esteemed actors deeply adhere to a timeless principle for a gratifying family life: Happy wife, happy life.
