A time of crisis or conflict is a litmus test for our true character. Our beliefs. Our moral values. Our Christianity. This is where the rubber meets the road.
It’s easy to say we love someone, until that love is put to the test. It could be infidelity – how many marriages started off with sincere vows of lifelong commitment, yet were destroyed by the fatal blows of adultery?
It could be betrayal – how many married couples have separated because one betrayed the other’s trust? Mishandling or being dishonest about money. Choosing one’s parent over one’s spouse. Breaking confidences through gossip or slander.
It could be negligence – a romance or marriage gone awry because one chose career over marriage; business over promises; a sport or hobby over dates with one’s spouse. Constant absences make hearts grow cold.
It could be selfishness – always wanting one’s way. Taking the other for granted. Not reciprocating the other’s kindness. Calculated giving.
Your litmus test could be abuse or manipulation. Friendships, not only marriages, have been shattered beyond redemption because one constantly exploited, abused, or subdued the other into submission. Abuse damages not only the abused, but also the abuser – mainly because God is all-just.
If we truly believe and live according to what the Bible says, we will pass love’s litmus tests:
“Love never fails.”
“Love covers a multitude of sins.”
“Love is patient. Love is kind…”
“Love does not brag and is not arrogant…”
“Love does not act unbecomingly…”
“Love does not seek its own…”
“Love does not take into account a wrong suffered…”
“Love is not rude…”
“Love is not provoked…”
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
If we truly believe what the Bible says about genuine love, then what we say and do in a time of crisis is a measure of how much we love God and each other. The second is a by-product of the first.
During a time of conflict or crisis, each kind and gracious word we say about each other — or each hurtful and hateful word we say against each other — will reveal our true character.
Do we deserve to call ourselves followers or disciples of Christ? Or are we just like the hypocrites and “whitewashed sepulchers” that Jesus publicly exposed?
It’s when we go through the refining fires of trials and crises that our thoughts, words, and actions reveal who we truly are — regardless of what we say, teach, preach, or write.
May we not put our Savior to shame.
Along with love, may we always show grace under pressure.