November 25, 2017, 9:55 am
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1 Philippine Peso = 448.93324 Vietnam Dong
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Friends by association

You’ve probably introduced some of your friends from Set A to your friends in Set B, right? 

Meaning, they don’t move in the same circles (professional, social or financial), but because of you, they met. 

Now here’s the thing -- if it so happens that the introduction you made brought your friend some kind of benefit, s/he should never forget that you’re the person who made that providential introduction. That’s just basic good manners. 

Sadly, many people forget who introduced them to whom, once the friendship-by-association has been established -- and once they’re already enjoying the benefits of your gracious introduction. I’m sure there’s a term in Pilipino for this kind of creature, but it escapes me at the moment. 

Such was the woe of this lady who went to me for counseling. She said that she had introduced Friend A (from a lower social-professional-financial level) to Friend B (who was rich, well-known, and had lots of “good contacts”). She was happy to do it for Friend A who needed the “good contacts” of Friend B. But more than that, she just liked both of them, even if they came from different socio-economic levels, so she introduced the two of them to each other. 

Friend A then started ingratiating herself to Friend B -- apparently to get into her good graces. Friend B was a member of social clubs, country clubs, exclusive circles, etc. which would’ve been out-of-reach to Friend A since she came from a lower income level. (I know. It sounds so bourgeoise. But that’s life!) 

So what was the problem of my counselee? Well, she was very upset, angry and hurt that Friend A, after getting access to Friend B, was ignoring her. Apparently, Friend A was already enjoying the “benefits” of her friendship with Friend B. Ergo, she no longer needed the counselee, the person who had made the introduction possible. 

Does this sound familiar to you? Well, let me get on with this interesting story.  

The counselee said that after being ignored and taken for granted by Friend A, she realized that Friend A was nothing but an opportunist and a social climber. A very bad one at that because she was just too obvious about it. 

The counselee felt that she was just used. Or if she wasn’t, she felt that it was terribly bad manners on the part of Friend A to just ignore her -- yet be so profuse with praise, attention, and compliments for Friend B. Clearly, Friend A had dropped the
counselee like a hot potato when she didn’t need her connections anymore. 

I advised the counselee to forgive Friend A, and give her the benefit of the doubt. But I also warned her to be careful about introducing Friend A to her other rich and influential friends. I mean, she didn’t want to get hurt or used like that again.
Furthermore, I told the counselee that social climbers, sycophants, opportunists, and users will eventually be exposed, and found out -- without our lifting a finger. 

I told the counselee that if her friend was just your garden-variety social climber, then she might be the harmless kind. You know the type -- the one that likes to name-drop, place-drop, and brag that they’re friends with some people in Facebook,
Twitter, and real time. I call them Celebrity Junkies. (Observe, too, how these people rarely tell you stories about their friends or relatives, as if there was nothing at all interesting about their their roots or their past.)

Unfortunately, later on, it turned out that Friend A proved to be the harmful kind of social climber. She ingratiated herself some more to Friend B (for more social climbing and to get more favors). Then, horror of horrors -- through a series of convoluted lies and gossip -- she even tried to destroy the counselee’s friendship with Friend B! The counselee only found out because Friend B finally wised up and told her about it!

Friend B then very quickly dropped the social climber, of course, and kept her friendship with the counselee. Thank goodness Friend B was sharp enough to see through the machinations of Friend A, whom both quickly unfriended. 

Such is the stuff that telenovelas are made of, I guess. There are people who just do horrible things like that for some reason known only to them. Maybe it’s their nature -- they just eliminate anyone whom they see as competition. They use people like they use ladders. They’re underhandedly competitive. In Pilipino, Hindi magpapatalo. Hindi puedeng sapawan. 

So I advised the counselee to have nothing to do with Friend A at all. I told her to forgive her, to pray for her, be polite if they saw each other, but to just avoid any unnecessary contact unless she saw a significant, convincing change. Which I highly doubt will happen in the near future. 

This is called putting up “boundaries.” Be shrewd as serpents but innocent as doves. That’s what the Bible tells us to be when we’re dealing with questionable characters. 

You’ve probably had your own versions of this social problem. Well, I have. A few times. If I sense they’re just harmless social climbers, I let it slide. But if they’re the harmful variety, I confront when necessary. 

On a positive note -- some of us, on the other hand, have had the privilege of being trusted, loved and pampered by the friends of our friends -- mainly because we’re loved and trusted by the friends who introduced them to us! 

I’ve been a recipient of such grace. This love and trust was extended to me, and for that, I am forever grateful. BUT I am also very, very careful not to take advantage of this extended friendship in any way. If there are to be any benefits, they must be reciprocal. And so, our friendships have deepened and thrived through so many years, even for decades. 

I make it a point not to forget who I owe my gratitude to -- in this case, which good friend introduced me to another good friend. That’s how it should be. 

To forget those who made providential connections for us is not only bad manners but it’s also shameless ingratitude. Let’s not be guilty of that!
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