May 27, 2017, 11:45 pm
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.07372 UAE Dirham
1 Philippine Peso = 2.41289 Albanian Lek
1 Philippine Peso = 0.03568 Neth Antilles Guilder
1 Philippine Peso = 0.32234 Argentine Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02694 Australian Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.03594 Aruba Florin
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04014 Barbados Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 1.61883 Bangladesh Taka
1 Philippine Peso = 0.03501 Bulgarian Lev
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1 Philippine Peso = 34.21016 Burundi Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02007 Bermuda Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02775 Brunei Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.1385 Bolivian Boliviano
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06559 Brazilian Real
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02007 Bahamian Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 1.29566 Bhutan Ngultrum
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1 Philippine Peso = 401.84665 Belarus Ruble
1 Philippine Peso = 0.0401 Belize Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02701 Canadian Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01958 Swiss Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 13.41871 Chilean Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13757 Chinese Yuan
1 Philippine Peso = 58.49057 Colombian Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 11.65616 Costa Rica Colon
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02007 Cuban Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 1.98153 Cape Verde Escudo
1 Philippine Peso = 0.47496 Czech Koruna
1 Philippine Peso = 3.56443 Djibouti Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13368 Danish Krone
1 Philippine Peso = 0.94018 Dominican Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 2.17375 Algerian Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.28102 Estonian Kroon
1 Philippine Peso = 0.3623 Egyptian Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.45965 Ethiopian Birr
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01796 Euro
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04169 Fiji Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01563 Falkland Islands Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01565 British Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.08608 Ghanaian Cedi
1 Philippine Peso = 0.90225 Gambian Dalasi
1 Philippine Peso = 182.35648 Guinea Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.14716 Guatemala Quetzal
1 Philippine Peso = 4.09595 Guyana Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15642 Hong Kong Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.46989 Honduras Lempira
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13267 Croatian Kuna
1 Philippine Peso = 1.33601 Haiti Gourde
1 Philippine Peso = 5.51927 Hungarian Forint
1 Philippine Peso = 267.16178 Indonesian Rupiah
1 Philippine Peso = 0.0717 Israeli Shekel
1 Philippine Peso = 1.29566 Indian Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 23.70534 Iraqi Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 651.18426 Iran Rial
1 Philippine Peso = 2.00763 Iceland Krona
1 Philippine Peso = 2.60177 Jamaican Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01422 Jordanian Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 2.23294 Japanese Yen
1 Philippine Peso = 2.06945 Kenyan Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 1.36341 Kyrgyzstan Som
1 Philippine Peso = 81.17021 Cambodia Riel
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1 Philippine Peso = 18.06503 North Korean Won
1 Philippine Peso = 22.47491 Korean Won
1 Philippine Peso = 0.00608 Kuwaiti Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01646 Cayman Islands Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 6.21999 Kazakhstan Tenge
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1 Philippine Peso = 3.06604 Sri Lanka Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 1.82658 Liberian Dollar
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1 Philippine Peso = 27.19791 Myanmar Kyat
1 Philippine Peso = 48.1935 Mongolian Tugrik
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1 Philippine Peso = 7.18587 Mauritania Ougulya
1 Philippine Peso = 0.6951 Mauritius Rupee
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.37051 Mexican Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 0.08565 Malaysian Ringgit
1 Philippine Peso = 0.25809 Namibian Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 6.4432 Nigerian Naira
1 Philippine Peso = 0.6002 Nicaragua Cordoba
1 Philippine Peso = 0.16848 Norwegian Krone
1 Philippine Peso = 2.07648 Nepalese Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02843 New Zealand Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.00773 Omani Rial
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02007 Panama Balboa
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06543 Peruvian Nuevo Sol
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06377 Papua New Guinea Kina
1 Philippine Peso = 1 Philippine Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 2.10277 Pakistani Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.0752 Polish Zloty
1 Philippine Peso = 111.54155 Paraguayan Guarani
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07308 Qatar Rial
1 Philippine Peso = 0.08182 Romanian New Leu
1 Philippine Peso = 1.13952 Russian Rouble
1 Philippine Peso = 16.44902 Rwanda Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07527 Saudi Arabian Riyal
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15837 Solomon Islands Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.26825 Seychelles Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13368 Sudanese Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.17472 Swedish Krona
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02777 Singapore Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01563 St Helena Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.44572 Slovak Koruna
1 Philippine Peso = 150.54195 Sierra Leone Leone
1 Philippine Peso = 11.01967 Somali Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 440.26096 Sao Tome Dobra
1 Philippine Peso = 0.17507 El Salvador Colon
1 Philippine Peso = 10.33681 Syrian Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.25802 Swaziland Lilageni
1 Philippine Peso = 0.68306 Thai Baht
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04816 Tunisian Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04615 Tongan paʻanga
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07172 Turkish Lira
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13487 Trinidad Tobago Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.60472 Taiwan Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 44.74107 Tanzanian Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 0.5289 Ukraine Hryvnia
1 Philippine Peso = 72.26014 Ugandan Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02007 United States Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.56624 Uruguayan New Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 76.29466 Uzbekistan Sum
1 Philippine Peso = 0.20022 Venezuelan Bolivar
1 Philippine Peso = 456.12204 Vietnam Dong
1 Philippine Peso = 2.15295 Vanuatu Vatu
1 Philippine Peso = 0.05162 Samoa Tala
1 Philippine Peso = 11.77599 CFA Franc (BEAC)
1 Philippine Peso = 0.0542 East Caribbean Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 11.81574 CFA Franc (BCEAO)
1 Philippine Peso = 2.13228 Pacific Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 5.01706 Yemen Riyal
1 Philippine Peso = 0.25808 South African Rand
1 Philippine Peso = 104.16499 Zambian Kwacha
1 Philippine Peso = 7.26415 Zimbabwe dollar

Friends by association

You’ve probably introduced some of your friends from Set A to your friends in Set B, right? 

Meaning, they don’t move in the same circles (professional, social or financial), but because of you, they met. 

Now here’s the thing -- if it so happens that the introduction you made brought your friend some kind of benefit, s/he should never forget that you’re the person who made that providential introduction. That’s just basic good manners. 

Sadly, many people forget who introduced them to whom, once the friendship-by-association has been established -- and once they’re already enjoying the benefits of your gracious introduction. I’m sure there’s a term in Pilipino for this kind of creature, but it escapes me at the moment. 

Such was the woe of this lady who went to me for counseling. She said that she had introduced Friend A (from a lower social-professional-financial level) to Friend B (who was rich, well-known, and had lots of “good contacts”). She was happy to do it for Friend A who needed the “good contacts” of Friend B. But more than that, she just liked both of them, even if they came from different socio-economic levels, so she introduced the two of them to each other. 

Friend A then started ingratiating herself to Friend B -- apparently to get into her good graces. Friend B was a member of social clubs, country clubs, exclusive circles, etc. which would’ve been out-of-reach to Friend A since she came from a lower income level. (I know. It sounds so bourgeoise. But that’s life!) 

So what was the problem of my counselee? Well, she was very upset, angry and hurt that Friend A, after getting access to Friend B, was ignoring her. Apparently, Friend A was already enjoying the “benefits” of her friendship with Friend B. Ergo, she no longer needed the counselee, the person who had made the introduction possible. 

Does this sound familiar to you? Well, let me get on with this interesting story.  

The counselee said that after being ignored and taken for granted by Friend A, she realized that Friend A was nothing but an opportunist and a social climber. A very bad one at that because she was just too obvious about it. 

The counselee felt that she was just used. Or if she wasn’t, she felt that it was terribly bad manners on the part of Friend A to just ignore her -- yet be so profuse with praise, attention, and compliments for Friend B. Clearly, Friend A had dropped the
counselee like a hot potato when she didn’t need her connections anymore. 

I advised the counselee to forgive Friend A, and give her the benefit of the doubt. But I also warned her to be careful about introducing Friend A to her other rich and influential friends. I mean, she didn’t want to get hurt or used like that again.
Furthermore, I told the counselee that social climbers, sycophants, opportunists, and users will eventually be exposed, and found out -- without our lifting a finger. 

I told the counselee that if her friend was just your garden-variety social climber, then she might be the harmless kind. You know the type -- the one that likes to name-drop, place-drop, and brag that they’re friends with some people in Facebook,
Twitter, and real time. I call them Celebrity Junkies. (Observe, too, how these people rarely tell you stories about their friends or relatives, as if there was nothing at all interesting about their their roots or their past.)

Unfortunately, later on, it turned out that Friend A proved to be the harmful kind of social climber. She ingratiated herself some more to Friend B (for more social climbing and to get more favors). Then, horror of horrors -- through a series of convoluted lies and gossip -- she even tried to destroy the counselee’s friendship with Friend B! The counselee only found out because Friend B finally wised up and told her about it!

Friend B then very quickly dropped the social climber, of course, and kept her friendship with the counselee. Thank goodness Friend B was sharp enough to see through the machinations of Friend A, whom both quickly unfriended. 

Such is the stuff that telenovelas are made of, I guess. There are people who just do horrible things like that for some reason known only to them. Maybe it’s their nature -- they just eliminate anyone whom they see as competition. They use people like they use ladders. They’re underhandedly competitive. In Pilipino, Hindi magpapatalo. Hindi puedeng sapawan. 

So I advised the counselee to have nothing to do with Friend A at all. I told her to forgive her, to pray for her, be polite if they saw each other, but to just avoid any unnecessary contact unless she saw a significant, convincing change. Which I highly doubt will happen in the near future. 

This is called putting up “boundaries.” Be shrewd as serpents but innocent as doves. That’s what the Bible tells us to be when we’re dealing with questionable characters. 

You’ve probably had your own versions of this social problem. Well, I have. A few times. If I sense they’re just harmless social climbers, I let it slide. But if they’re the harmful variety, I confront when necessary. 

On a positive note -- some of us, on the other hand, have had the privilege of being trusted, loved and pampered by the friends of our friends -- mainly because we’re loved and trusted by the friends who introduced them to us! 

I’ve been a recipient of such grace. This love and trust was extended to me, and for that, I am forever grateful. BUT I am also very, very careful not to take advantage of this extended friendship in any way. If there are to be any benefits, they must be reciprocal. And so, our friendships have deepened and thrived through so many years, even for decades. 

I make it a point not to forget who I owe my gratitude to -- in this case, which good friend introduced me to another good friend. That’s how it should be. 

To forget those who made providential connections for us is not only bad manners but it’s also shameless ingratitude. Let’s not be guilty of that!
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