January 22, 2018, 6:23 am
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.03513 Neth Antilles Guilder
1 Philippine Peso = 0.37432 Argentine Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02466 Australian Dollar
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.06307 Brazilian Real
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.94356 Dominican Peso
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.537 Ethiopian Birr
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01614 Euro
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.01423 Falkland Islands Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01424 British Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.08955 Ghanaian Cedi
1 Philippine Peso = 0.95481 Gambian Dalasi
1 Philippine Peso = 177.50149 Guinea Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.14478 Guatemala Quetzal
1 Philippine Peso = 4.06335 Guyana Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15424 Hong Kong Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.4645 Honduras Lempira
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1 Philippine Peso = 23.36688 Iraqi Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 722.49855 Iran Rial
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1 Philippine Peso = 21.05013 Korean Won
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1 Philippine Peso = 26.54431 Myanmar Kyat
1 Philippine Peso = 47.6416 Mongolian Tugrik
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15887 Macau Pataca
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.36718 Mexican Peso
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1 Philippine Peso = 0.24178 Namibian Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 7.06532 Nigerian Naira
1 Philippine Peso = 0.6045 Nicaragua Cordoba
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15516 Norwegian Krone
1 Philippine Peso = 2.01397 Nepalese Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02711 New Zealand Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.00759 Omani Rial
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01974 Panama Balboa
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06337 Peruvian Nuevo Sol
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06241 Papua New Guinea Kina
1 Philippine Peso = 1 Philippine Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 2.17782 Pakistani Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.06737 Polish Zloty
1 Philippine Peso = 110.75588 Paraguayan Guarani
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07183 Qatar Rial
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07523 Romanian New Leu
1 Philippine Peso = 1.11021 Russian Rouble
1 Philippine Peso = 16.49398 Rwanda Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07401 Saudi Arabian Riyal
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15294 Solomon Islands Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.26317 Seychelles Rupee
1 Philippine Peso = 0.13811 Sudanese Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.15903 Swedish Krona
1 Philippine Peso = 0.02605 Singapore Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01423 St Helena Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.43825 Slovak Koruna
1 Philippine Peso = 150.5822 Sierra Leone Leone
1 Philippine Peso = 11.09138 Somali Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 395.67793 Sao Tome Dobra
1 Philippine Peso = 0.17269 El Salvador Colon
1 Philippine Peso = 10.16341 Syrian Pound
1 Philippine Peso = 0.24082 Swaziland Lilageni
1 Philippine Peso = 0.62838 Thai Baht
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04813 Tunisian Dinar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.04392 Tongan paʻanga
1 Philippine Peso = 0.07512 Turkish Lira
1 Philippine Peso = 0.1331 Trinidad Tobago Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.57902 Taiwan Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 44.22736 Tanzanian Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 0.56937 Ukraine Hryvnia
1 Philippine Peso = 71.46241 Ugandan Shilling
1 Philippine Peso = 0.01974 United States Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 0.56325 Uruguayan New Peso
1 Philippine Peso = 160.3513 Uzbekistan Sum
1 Philippine Peso = 0.19686 Venezuelan Bolivar
1 Philippine Peso = 447.97712 Vietnam Dong
1 Philippine Peso = 2.03691 Vanuatu Vatu
1 Philippine Peso = 0.0496 Samoa Tala
1 Philippine Peso = 10.5818 CFA Franc (BEAC)
1 Philippine Peso = 0.05329 East Caribbean Dollar
1 Philippine Peso = 10.49813 CFA Franc (BCEAO)
1 Philippine Peso = 1.92441 Pacific Franc
1 Philippine Peso = 4.9329 Yemen Riyal
1 Philippine Peso = 0.24034 South African Rand
1 Philippine Peso = 102.41761 Zambian Kwacha
1 Philippine Peso = 7.14229 Zimbabwe dollar

Enablers and disablers

There are two kinds of people who do unquantifiable — and many times — irreparable damage to themselves and others: enablers and disablers. In some cases, they know what they’re doing. Meaning, they’re basically manipulative. In other cases, in a warped sense of the word, they do it to “survive.” But whatever the underlying motives are, the results are always disastrous.

Enablers are people who allow you to do whatever you like without having to take the consequences for it — like a parent who always pays for his son’s maxed-out credit card. Or a mom who gives a monthly allowance to a daughter who refuses to work. Or a boyfriend who keeps lending his car to his girlfriend who bangs up her car every three months or so. Or a sister who writes her brother’s term paper for him because she’s scared that he’ll flunk.

An enabler is someone who generally rescues someone else from his responsibilities; bails him out when he’s in trouble; doesn’t let him suffer the consequences of his wrong choices; or simply allows someone to boss him around and treat him like a slave.

An enabler will do the dirty work for you. He’ll clean up your mess for you. He’ll allow you to treat him like dirt — just so you’ll keep him around.

An enabler needs to be needed. In a way, he’s a manipulator. He tries to keep himself attached to someone by being indispensable. But of course, we know that at the end of the day, no one is indispensable.

Parents who are enablers will definitely cripple their kids. Enablers, as a rule, raise losers. It’s a no-brainer. Kids become losers when they’re allowed to be lazy instead of hard-working. Kids become losers when someone always bails them out — so they grow up entitled, irresponsible, arrogant. Kids become losers when they’re not allowed to suffer the consequences of their wrong choices. They might even grow up to be criminals — because they were never taught the law of sowing and reaping, of cause and effect. Of rewards and penalties.

Enablers prevent their victims from realizing or reaching their potentials. By doing most everything for them, their codependent never learns to use his brains and muscles — so they atrophy and degenerate from lack of use. They lack ambition. They lack drive. They imagine all sorts of excuses for not even trying. And they usually end up loathing the very people who enable them to do the wrong, unproductive, destructive things they’re doing.

If you’re a parent who’s raising a loser and a spoiled brat, if you’re someone who’s in a codependent relationship, stop it right now. You’re doing serious, long-term damage to yourself and others. Manipulating someone to use you and need you is tantamount to creating an addiction where you’re the poison of choice. 

An enabler has no sense of self-worth. Has very low self-esteem. Or might even have concealed self-loathing and a pattern of self-abasement; a severe lack of self-respect.

A disabler, on the other hand, is someone who does just that — he disables a person from being useful, productive, from reaching his potentials, from believing in himself. A disabler is constantly negative. Constantly criticizes and puts down his victim. Constantly tears down someone’s self-confidence. Constantly bullies his victim into submission and self-destruction.

Parents who are disablers are easy to identify. They abuse their children physically, verbally, emotionally, psychologically. This is how you raise a serial killer. This is how you raise a serial child molester, a pedophile. Or an adult sexual molester, rapist, sex addict. This is how you raise people who will also deal violently with their family. 

Kids learn, early on, to numb their pain by doing something so despicable that it destroys all sense of human dignity in them. They defile others because they, themselves, have been defiled. However, this isn’t an excuse. It’s an explanation.

I’ve seen the long- and short-term effects of being with enablers and disablers. Both are very efficient agents of destruction. Enabling can sometimes be subtle. But disabling definitely is not. But both kinds of dysfunction create crippled victims or destructive monsters.

Whatever the outcome, the psycho-social carnage goes on. Think about it. Are you an enabler or a disabler? Can you see the tell-tale signs, the twisted thinking, the character flaws in your children? Your spouse? Your officemates? Your friends or classmates? If you know you’re in a codependent relationship, end it now. If it’s with a family member and you live under one roof, then it’s time for a paradigm shift. You need to put up your personal boundaries, and learn to respect other’s boundaries. 

An enabler or disabler will ultimately self-destruct. It’s only a question of time.
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