June 24, 2018, 10:39 am
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Death of a friendship

IF there’s anything that’s probably as rampant as couples breaking up, it must be friends torn asunder. I cannot count how many friendships I’ve seen destroyed ever since I was in grade school – including some of my own. And I’ve also seen varying levels of grief...and relief because of broken friendships! 

“Good riddance” is as much a reality as “good grief,” forgive the pun. Yes, I’ve seen people so relieved that they finally got rid of certain “friends.” And I’ve seen grief that was good for some people after they mourned the loss of a friend. It made them less insensitive, less self-centered, and more aware of the damage they could do to others. 

Some friendships, we must admit, are better left unrestored – for many reasons, both obvious and, at times, better left unsaid. 

Which led me to wonder today: what are some things that kill friendships? I know there’s probably no comprehensive list. But from the top of my head, these are the most notorious friendship-breakers I’ve seen: 

1. Expecting too much from a friend. 

By nature, we’re all selfish. So most of us have this shopping list of expectations, the things that we expect people – especially friends – to do for us. When they come short, we get hurt. We think, “But I’d do this or that for him if I knew he needed help! So why isn’t he helping me?

And I thought he was my friend! Hindi pala maaasahan!” Or words to that effect. 

Well, wrong logic there. First, just because we’re willing to do something for our friends doesn’t mean we have the right to expect the same thing from them. 

Second, We have different priorities, different values, different situations in life. We shouldn’t impose our own values and priorities on others. Not even our closest friends.

Third, take responsibility for your own life. While it’s ok to ask for help, don’t expect people to come running, at your beck and call. You might be absolutely clueless about the burdens your friend has to bear. 

2. Making assumptions and being presumptuous. 

If a friend doesn’t say yes to your request – even if the reason seems shallow or unreasonable to you –have enough maturity to accept a NO without making tampo or making innuendos about how poorly you were treated or something as infantile as that. 

Or maybe you weren’t invited somewhere; so you feel you were overlooked, forgotten, ignored. Did you and your friend sign a contract that says you have to be invited to all the lunches/dinners, parties, outings, celebrations, etc. that your friend will organize or host? If you, indeed, signed a contract like that (I’m being smart-alecky here), then sue him/her! Otherwise, shut up about it already or you will end up looking really pathetic. 

3. Your friend is now closer to another person. So you’re jealous! Oh my. That is sooo highschool. Grow up. 

4. You went into business with a friend – and now things have gone sour because one of  you, or both of you, has/have become greedy. For money, what else? Money and greed break friendships faster than you can say “Yikes. It’s now 53 to a dollar!!!”

There are too many friendships ruined by a business partnership. So, a word of caution: pray hard and think very, very carefully about it. The deeper the friendship, the more bitter the break-up, if even just one party isn’t willing to forgive, or give way. 

There are exceptions, of course. But these are rare. My husband and I had three business partnerships that went extremely well – everyone was happy with the outcome. We all made hefty profits. And we ended up even better friends after we decided to liquidate our assets! We consider ourselves extremely blessed to have friends who also turned out to be good business partners. But I know of many friendships that ended up bitterly – some even in Court – after their businesses became a source of conflict. 

5. Not respecting boundaries. 

Just because someone is your best friend doesn’t mean that s/he has to tell you everything, even his/her deepest secrets. Again, this is sooo highschool – but you’d be shocked at how full-grown adults get offended when a close friend doesn’t tell them about something “major” in his/her life. 

Like, “What?!! Why didn’t you tell me you’re in the hospital?” 

Or, “OMG. How come you didn’t even tell me that you’re leaving pala for Boracay? Sana I could’ve gone with you!” 

Or, “What?!! You have a boyfriend na pala?!! Why didn’t you tell me?!!” 

Or (and this takes the cake), “Grabe ka. You sold your car pala? Why didn’t you tell me?!! Sana you told me first. So how much did you sell it for?!!” 

The nerve, right? 

Don’t laugh – all these examples are true! I’ve had to counsel people who were extremely “hurt” simply because they didn’t respect the boundaries, the privacy, of their “close” friends. 

6. Borrowing money from friends. 

This one is a no-brainer: If you habitually borrow from your friends, they will disappear. They’ll avoid you like the plague. If you borrow money from a friend and don’t pay it, you’ll lose a friend. Or you’ll lose his/her respect. The person might not show it, and it might look like he’s still your friend, but most probably, his trust and respect for you have decreased considerably. 

7. Gossiping, backbiting, betraying the confidence of a friend. 

Something said in confidence must be kept in confidence. A true friend won’t blabber about your secrets. A true friend won’t make snide remarks about you. A true friend won’t gossip about you. So if you’re a true friend – you won’t do these things to your friends. What we expect from others, we must also do ourselves. 

8. Enabling a friend. 

When you keep bailing out or keep rescuing a friend, you’re no longer a friend. You’re an enabler. You need to be needed. You’re manipulative in an insidious way. And what you have is not a friendship but a co-dependent relationship which is extremely damaging and crippling. It will self-destruct. 

9. Exploiting or Using a friend. 

Do you have “friends” who call you only when they need something? Or who keep asking favors from you – just because you belong to the same church? Oops. I’m stepping on many toes here! 

Friends who are users and exploiters will drop you like a hot potato, and forget about you, the minute you’re no longer of any use to them. Drop them before they drop you. Not to worry, one day they might need your help again – next time, be wiser. 
10. Envy between friends. 

This has to be one of the ugliest reasons for a friendship to die. I’ve seen people fabricate things, falsely accuse, or tear down their “friends,” just because they envied them. I’ve been a victim of this, several times. It was an unimaginably ugly thing that caused me much anger, pain, and grief – especially since I was betrayed by people who I thought were our very good friends. 

It was so tempting to retaliate, since all I had to do was just push the right buttons – but if you consider Jesus your Friend, you won’t take revenge. You will, in fact, let Him avenge and vindicate you because that’s what He commands us to do: “...’Vengeance is mine,’says the Lord.” 

I have long forgiven these “friends” (some of whom we even helped professionally and financially). Amazingly, I have also witnessed how God dealt with them, one by one, in ways that made them suffer much, much more than I did. Indeed, it is a terrible thing to fall into the hands of the living God. His revenge is much more precise, more efficient, and more painful than ours – so let God avenge you. 

I think God despises those who betray their friends – remember what happened to Judas? He was so miserable after he betrayed Jesus (remorse, not repentance) that he hung himself, and his guts spilled out when he fell to the ground. 

On the other hand, I’ve seen God richly, richly reward people who are true friends. While they’re not exempt from trials just like all of us, God showers the with grace and favor in the midst of their difficulties. 

A true friend is someone who encourages and inspires you to become a better person. A true friend can stand on his own two feet, and yet be there for you on his own terms, in a way that respects your boundaries. A true friend will help you to become the best version of yourself! 

The Bible says it excellently: “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” 

This piece is dedicated to my true friends. Thank you for enriching my life. You know who you are!
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